…Of Holy Matrimony…
Just opened my pc after putting my little boy to bed for his morning nap and as the long queue of start-up, something in the yahoo! news caught my attention… nope, it is not this news yet… since the marquee of news seems interesting for a monday morning, I continued scrolling and viola, headline reads MARRIAGE LOSES LUSTER IN PH! this has caught not only my attention but my interest as well. so i continued on reading…
if you think i reflected on this blog, you’re wrong. the ideas are free flowing – no reflections or whatever (so pardon me if the ideas i present here seem to be too radical for a Christian like me). The numbers presented in the news are not strange especially in the current economical situation of the Filipino Society. It is also true that getting married may cost a lot particularly for people who earns just enough to feed his family. However, the government offers cheap options of getting married – mass wedding, civil weddings, etc. And the result is still the same – two becomes one and they become bound to each other for the rest of their lives – through thick and thin – for better and (most of the time) for worst. So what else is new? Is this a shock for a country like ours? A country that claims to be a Christian Nation? For the katoliko sarado Filipinos, this may be bothering them. But then, what can they do?
in a Catholic point of view, they couple are wed to one another together with Christ (this is as far as my religious point of view is concern) and that what makes it a Holy Matrimony. and that is one of the basic reason why the Catholic Church is against the divorce bill. The church says in the Gospel of Saint Mark: 6 “But at the beginning of creation God ‘made them male and female.’[a] 7 ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife,[b] 8 and the two will become one flesh.’[c] So they are no longer two, but one flesh. 9 Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” So this might be another reason why couples don’t get married.
Practically speaking, most Filipinos find it practical to live in together without getting married. No skyrocketing expenses for a wedding and more savings more money for the need of the family. Maybe, may I say, another reason of not getting married is the lack of divorce in the Philippines. No marriage by trial-and-error (I know… i know that your eyebrows are now high enough to reach the first hair of your head)… but this is the reality. Ayawan man natin pero ganyan.. takot ang mga Pinoy na masaktan sakaling mapatali sila sa taong inakala nilang mamahalin at magiging tapat sa kanila habang buhay.
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Marriage is a big thing for us Filipinos. Hindi bah? But still, the growing number of unmarried couples living in together with a team of basketball kids. Well, madalas sinasabi nila, pambili na lang nila ng gatas ang gagamitin sa pagpapakasal. (they might not know medyo mahirap din para sa kanila at kanilang anak ang prosesso ng legitimation). Tama naman talaga. Tapos pag hindi sila nagkaigi, maghihiwalay sila, kay nanay si ate, kuya at bunso, kay tatay ang 2 panggitna. Trial and error… tapos they can get married to someone else. or at the end, kerida pa ang unang kinasama. hay. low morality sasabihin ng mga Katoliko at ng Simbahan. Well, ganyan talaga. This is not fashion – or trend or fad. This is our culture. Ganito naman talaga ang mga Pilipino.
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Extended family vs. nuclear family. Isa ito sa set up ng pamilyang Pilipino. Madalas hindi humihiwalay ang mag-asawa sa kanilang pamilya o di kaya ung pamilya ng asawa ay sumasama sa pamumuhay ng kanilang anak. Basta alam naman natin ang set up ng extended family dito sa Pinas. Walang masama dito. The more, the merrier. Pero depende rin siguro sa sitwasyon. Kung ikaw ang bread winner ng pamilya mo at nagpakasal ka, kasama sa pinakasalan ng asawa ang buong pamilya. Ibig sabihin katuwang mo na ngayon ang asawa mo sa pagbuhay ng pamilya mo. Kaya minsan mahirap magsimula ng sariling pamilya lalo na kung sapat lang kinikita mo para sa inyo….
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ITO PO AY MGA OPINION KO AT PERSONAL NA PANANAW… IPAGPAUMANHIN PO NINYO KUNG MAY NASAGASAAN AKO AT NASAGING PANANAW AT PANINIWALA NINYO.
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